From the moment we are born, society feeds us a narrative of exceptionalism. We're told that if we work hard enough, dream big enough, and have enough determination, we can be anything we want to be. The poster child of this narrative is often the lead violinist: graceful, precise, and at the forefront of the orchestra, capturing the attention and admiration of all. But what if we were to tell you that not everyone is meant to be the lead violinist? That some of us, in fact, play the tuba. And that's perfectly okay.

As comforting as it may be to believe that we all have an inner lead violinist waiting to shine, it's a myth that can set unrealistic expectations and ultimately lead to disappointment. The truth is, we each have our unique talents, inclinations, and passions. Not everyone will be the fastest runner, the best painter, or, indeed, the lead violinist. And there's a beauty in that diversity.

Let's talk about the tuba for a moment. It might not have the sleek allure of the violin, but it's an instrument of depth and resonance. It forms the foundation of many musical compositions, providing a rich base that other instruments build upon. Without the tuba, the orchestra would lack depth and dimension.

Much like in life, while some of us take center stage, others provide the essential backdrop that allows the lead to shine. Think about the directors behind successful movies, the writers behind compelling speeches, or the engineers behind groundbreaking technologies. They might not always be in the limelight, but their roles are crucial.

Instead of striving to fit a mold that wasn’t meant for us, there's fulfillment in finding our true calling. It's about recognizing and accepting our strengths and weaknesses, understanding our passions, and pursuing a path that aligns with who we truly are. When we play the instrument we're meant to, whether it's the tuba, the triangle, or the tambourine, we play it with authenticity and joy.

It's time we redefine what success means. Being the lead violinist is one form of success, but so is being the tuba player, the drummer, or the flutist. Success is about making the most of our abilities, contributing in our unique way, and finding fulfillment and purpose in what we do.

While not everyone can be the lead violinist, that shouldn't be the metric by which we measure our worth or success. Every instrument, no matter how big or small, has its role to play. And when each one of us plays our part to the best of our ability, together we create a symphony that's richer and more beautiful than any solo act could ever be.

Hans J Petersen